The first Monday of the month is here, so it’s time to enjoy another edition of Marriage Monday. e-Mom over at Chrysalis usually hosts Marriage Monday, but this month she has given me an opportunity to serve as guest hostess. I’m excited about today’s topic and I look forward to reading your thoughts on this month’s theme, The Sanctuary of Christian Marriage.
God has a wonderful plan for husbands and wives but the wild roller coaster ride of marriage sometimes causes us to forget this point. God intends for marriage to be a sanctuary for the both husband and the wife and within marriage couples should find a refuge, a place of safety, and a shelter from danger. This marital sanctuary should be the place both spouses turn to for refreshment, comfort, and understanding.
Many couples (including JT and me) forget or are not sure of how to create such a safe haven, but God’s word shows us exactly how it is to be done. According to Ephesians 4:31-32, we are to “Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.” Furthermore we are instructed to “Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.” If you’ve been married for more than a minute or two, you know accomplishing the goals outlined in this passage of scripture can be difficult at times. Nonetheless, God expects us to follow the directions He has outlined in His word. He will bless our marriages if we obey Him.
A marital sanctuary is created when we let go of selfishness and anger and instead offer kindness and forgiveness. When marriage is a place of safety, couples can freely express their opinions and desires without judgment and rejection. When marriage is a save haven, both husband and wife can reveal their fears and flaws without ridicule and repercussion. When marriage is a true refuge, husbands and wives have no need to put up walls or be on guard. Each person is free to be themselves and is loved exactly as they are. A couple finds a shelter from life’s storms and their deepest needs are recognized, valued, and nurtured within the sanctuary of Christian marriage.
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