Week number four of A Believer’s Character is here. I’m partnering with Joyice Harris of Raising Boys Homeschool for an alphabetical excursion through a list of important Biblical character traits for children.
This week Joyice and I are exploring character traits that begin with the letter D. I’m discussing how I’m striving to help my girls become dependable and Joyice is sharing how she’s working to help her boys become diligent through her post D is for Diligent. Please take time to visit Joyice. Her post is an encouraging one.
A few weeks ago, I was sitting in the lobby of a restaurant. Because it was taking so long for us to be seated, the manager had to come over and escort us to a table. As the girlies and I slid into the seats of the booth, the manager apologized for the delay and remarked that he was having a hard time finding dependable employees.
I asked the manager what made finding dependable employs so hard, he explained that it was “next to impossible” to find timely, competent, capable, and skilled employees. “You can’t depend on anybody anyone,” he said. How sad!
What is dependability?
A dependable person is reliable and worthy of trust. Dependability is an important character trait that includes timeliness, good service, and quality results. Dependable people are the ones who get the job done!
What does the Bible say about dependability?
One of the most beautiful stories in the Bible offers a shining example of dependability. The book of Ruth tells of the loving relationship between Ruth and her mother-in-law, Naomi. Because of a famine in Judah, Naomi, her husband, her sons, and daughters-in-law move to Moab.
While in Moab, Naomi’s husband dies and soon after, her sons die as well. Naomi encourages her daughters-in-law, Ruth and Orpah to leave Moab and to return to their familiar homeland so they can be with relatives and possibly find new husbands.
Orpah takes Naomi’s suggestion and heads back to her family. Ruth, however, refuses to leave Naomi. In one of the most poignant passages of all of scripture, Ruth offers these words to the mother-in-law she loves so dearly:
But Ruth replied, “Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the deal with me, be it ever so severely, if even death separates you and me.” (Ruth 1:16-17)
Ruth had every right to leave Naomi and begin a new life elsewhere. But , she did not. Why not? Ruth knew that even thought Naomi hadn’t said so, Naomi was depending upon her. Ruth stayed with Naomi and helped her. Because she was such a dependable woman, the Lord blessed Ruth with a wonderful husband, Boaz.
Ruth was made personal sacrifices to help ensure that Naomi was well cared for. That’s exactly what a dependable person does.
How can I teach my daughters to be dependable?
One day my daughters will become leaders at home, in the church, at work, and within their communities. However, their roles as wives and mothers will be the most important roles of all. The girlies’ ability to fill theses roles successfully will directly impact their families because their husbands and children will be depending upon them. My husband and I want the girlies to be ready to take on these roles, so we have to teach them how to be dependable. Here are five ideas we’re using to teach dependability.
- Think before you speak. It’s important for the girlies to make sure they fully understand what is required of them before they make a commitment. Asking questions for clarification can help them better understand what they need to do and what is expected of them.
- Follow through. If the girlies say they’re going to do something, my husband and I expect them to do what they’ve said they would do. The girlies must realize that to do anything less would be irresponsible and unfair to those who have put their trust in them.
- Don’t wait for reminders. The girlies must recognize that dependable people are self motivated. They understand what they need to do and they begin working on the task right away. There’s no need for repeated reminders because dependable people are dedicated people.
- Pays attention to the details. We want the girlies to develop an eye for details and complete their tasks well. Part of doing so is by completing all aspects of the assigned task. The girlies need to know that shortcuts may lead to sloppy results.
- Take care of things in a timely manner. Dependable people are punctual. My husband and I want the girlies to learn to use their time wisely so they can complete the task they must complete without rushing or without feeling overwhelmed.
Prayer for Dependability
Dear Lord, thank you for being the One I can always depend upon. Your love for me is never-ending, your provisions are always precise, and guidance is without error. Thank you for being the perfect example of dependability. Help me to depend on You Lord and not on myself. Remind me that you are the One who knows what is best for me. Teach me how to trust You and to help me remember You are always faithful. In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen.
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