If you’ve been homeschooling for more than a minute, you’ve probably experienced a moment (or two , three, or four!) of self doubt. You are not alone. The reality is many homeschool moms wage war against self doubt. And the like any other war, it consists of major battles. And many times the battles are long and repetitive.
When those moments of self doubt come, you’re tempted to give up, but then you remember your reasons for homeschooling and you reread the homeschooling information you’ve collected. The Happy Homeschool Express is back on the tracks again. You chug along joyfully, confident in your decision, satisfied with your ability, and encouraged by your capability. But…as you round the bend, an obscuring fog descends just before you catch a glimpse of the long dark tunnel looming ahead.
In an instance, the homeschool confidence you recently regained is gone. You want to slam on the brakes of The Happy Homeschool Express and stop right there on the tracks, but you can’t. Criticism from a family member forces you down the tracks and you enter The Tunnel of Self Doubt. Your lingering fears of math rise up and you move further into the tunnel. Long planning sessions centered around stacks of curriculum hurl you into the depths of the tunnel. You stall in the tunnel and darkness envelops you. All the initial homeschool questions and accompanying self doubt come back…again.
Is it really possible for me to teach my children?
Am I patient enough to do this?
Will homeschooling hinder my child’s future success?
Am I smart enough do do this?
Yes, The Tunnel of Self Doubt can be long one, but I want you to know you are not battling alone and there is light at the end of the tunnel. Many moms, including me, have repeatedly asked these very same questions. If you’re battling homeschool self doubt, you can defeat it. Just remember you are the best homeschool mom for your child because…
- You have obeyed God’s call for you to homeschool. When you doubt your own ability, remember you are not homeschooling alone. God is with you all the time. An encouraging word of scripture, a time of prayer , or a comforting hymn can help you refocus on the Lord. You heeded God’s call to homeschool and He will give you the strength to homeschool well.
- You know your child better than anyone else. You know your son is an auditory learner and that your daughter is a tactile learner who needs lots of moving about in order to learn. Because you’ve spent countless hours with your child, you know him well. You can take what you know and create individualized lessons that meet each child’s unique needs right at home. When your child faces an educational road block, you have an idea of how to help her around it.
- You want your child to succeed. You’re ready to do whatever it takes to help your child learn. Praying, reading books, attending homeschool cooperatives are all strategies you use to help to help child do well. Slacking is not an option for you, so you seek out every opportunity to help ensure your child’s success both now and in the future.
- You enjoy learning alongside your child. You recognize that homeschooling is a hands on experience. You enjoy teaching and you love to watch your child grow. You enjoy learning with your child, teaching her new concepts, and seeing her use what she’s learned to improve. You know and love that as your child learns, you’re learning as well.
You are the best homeschool mom for your child. Though self doubt will come, you don’t have to face it all alone. Take off the conductor’s hat, give it to God, and let Him navigate The Happy Homeschool Express. When you come to the dark tunnels, know God is there with you. Trust Him and know He will provide light even in the midst of the darkness. When self doubt arises, don’t be afraid. God is on your side and He has made YOU the best homeschool mom!
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