Today marks another installment of the web series, A Believer’s Character. Each Monday Joyice Harris of Raising Boys Homeschool and I share posts about the Godly character we wish to impress upon the hearts of our children.
This week Joyice, the mother of two boys, explains how she goes about helping her boys how to become good leaders. Meanwhile, I’m sharing how I’m teaching my girls how to be more loving. Please stop by Raising Boys Homeschool to read Joyice’s post. If you wish to see the list of character traits I’ve already shared, please visit this page, The ABCs of Christian Character.
What is the definition of the word loving?
A definition of the word loving is the demonstration of love or great care. Those who are loving show sincere love and offer great care to others.
What does the Bible say about being loving?
The Bible is full of examples of love. Some Biblical figures display spousal love, such as the love Jacob demonstrates for Rachel. At other times we see brotherly love, like the love between David and his friend Jonathan. Within scripture we also find parental love like Hannah’s love for her much prayed for son, Samuel. Finally, we see the love between in-laws, beautifully exemplified by Ruth and Naomi.
These examples and many others found within the pages of the Bible show us that love is important to God. It does not matter whether we’re in a relationship with a spouse, friend, sibling, or in-law. God is love and He expects us to love others. Consider the words of I John 4: 20:
Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or a sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, who they have seen, cannot love God whom they have not seen.
God speaks clearly. If we can’t love the people we live with here on Earth (those we see), we cannot honestly say we love Him (the One we cannot see). One way of the ways we demonstrate a sincere love for God is by loving His people, the people He loving created in His very own image.
Teaching my daughters to love
My husband and I want our daughters to be loving and so we’re working to help them do so. There are three characteristics about love we want our girlies to understand and apply.
- Love comes from God. In order for them to love others, my girlies must first love God. In order for this to occur, the girlies must develop strong relationships with God, ones based on salvation, so that He can teach them how to love others. God is the only source of true love and He displayed an amazing act of love by allowing His only Son to die on the cross to save us of our sins.
- Love is a verb. Love is more than just mere talk. True love takes action. I John 3:18 reminds us of this point: Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth. The girlies cannot rely on lip service to prove that they love another person. True love will be exemplified through tangible actions that follow up on the words they speak.
- Love expects nothing in return. True love comes with no strings attached. “I’ll love you if….” does not apply. “If you do this, then I’ll love you,” is not an option either. Sincere love is given no matter what the other person does or does not do. God doesn’t love us only when we obey Him. He always loves us…even when we don’t display love toward Him. We want our daughters to exercise a Christ-like love toward those they claim to love.
A prayer for love:
Dear Lord, thank you for being such a loving Father to us all. Thank you for loving us enough to allow Christ to die on a cross for us. Help us never to forget the love You showed us on that day and help us to recall that sacrifice when we are tempted to be unloving toward others. Fill our hearts with Your love, so that we may share that love with others. In the name of Jesus I pray. Amen.
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