Welcome back to the series, The ABCs of Christian Character. Since June, Joyice Harris of Raising Boys Homeschool and I have been sharing weekly posts about the Godly character traits we wish to instill within our children. Today, I’m writing about raising trustworthy girls.
What is the definition of the word trustworthy?
A trustworthy person is defined as one who is able to be relied on to do or provide what is needed or right.
What does the Bible say about being trustworthy?
Trust is the foundation of all relationships: personal, business, and spiritual. When trust is absent or broken, people become suspicious, guarded, and fearful. Without trust, a host of problems arise. We see families destroyed, businesses fail, wars waged, and churches divided all because trust was broken.
When we are not trustworthy, we disappoint God and hinder our spiritual growth. God knows we have a tendency to ignore trustworthiness, so He uses scripture to remind us of the importance of trust. Consider these verses.
- Do not lie to each other,since you have taken off your old self with its practices 10 and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator. (Colossians 3:9-10)
- A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret. (Proverbs 11:13)
- There are six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil, a false witness who pours out lies and a person who stirs up conflict in the community. (Proverbs 6:16-19)
- Then we will no longer be infants, tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching and by the cunning and craftiness of people in their deceitful scheming. Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ. (Ephesians 4:15-16
Teaching our girls to be trustworthy:
Set a good example. Trustworthiness is a character trait that is often “caught not taught”. In other words, though the girlies will hear my husband and I talk about being trustworthy, our words mean nothing if they don’t see us being trustworthy. A gossipy conversation about a fellow church member, earning “extra” money by way of dishonest tax returns, and lies about why we can’t go to work, are actions that speak volumes to our children. If I want trustworthy children, they must see mean being trustworthy in what I say and do.
Use the Bible to teach trustworthiness. Dig into the Bible to identify and study figures study who wrestled with issues of trust or faced consequences due to lack of trust. Examine King David’s treatment of his servant Uriah. Explore the roots and consequences Ananias and Sapphira’s crime against the church. Study how Joseph’s family experienced hardship because sons could not trust their father. After sharing these events, talk about how they relate to relationships in modern times.
Enforce trustworthiness in the home. We don’t ever want broken promises and a lack of trust to become a norm within our home, so we do not tolerate breaches of trust. If my husband and I turn a blind eye to dishonest behavior, we’re permitting our girls to build their lives upon a shaky foundation that will not support Godly relationships. As soon as we see such behavior, we address it and issue appropriate consequences to help remind the girls that dishonesty will not be tolerated.
Reward the behavior. Though we believe in rewarding our girls for appropriate behavior, we don’t believe in doling out physical rewards such as toys, games, and gifts on a regular basis. As we see the girls becoming more trustworthy, we reward them with additional privileges from time to time. We also talk with them about how their actions blessed others so they see the blessings of being a trusted individual.
A prayer for trust:
Dear Lord, thank you being our Heavenly Father, the One we can always depend upon. Thank you for being a trustworthy guide who always provides a great example for us to follow. Teach me to imitate your character so that I may trustworthy too. Let my trusted actions bring glory to Your Name and draw others closer to you. As I follow You, help me to have faith and remember that You are trustworthy and that you will take care of every single one of my needs. In the name of Jesus I pray. Amen.
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